3 Secrets to Living the Life You Are Called to Live

What if every day you were living your purpose and following your calling in life?

What if you lived in the present tense rather than holding out for the future?

 Ever wonder what would that look like?

The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet. Frederick Buechner, Wishful Thinking: A Theological ABC


One of the things that I do in Dream Achiever Coaching is help people discover their mission or their calling in life.  I believe we all have a calling, even when we don’t recognize it. In fact I wrote a whole book about discovering that calling and what to do with it when you find it!  Here’s a link to the book:

The Call: Perfect Dream, Imperfect Life

6 Benefits of Knowing Your Calling

There are a lot of reasons to spend some time discovering your calling…here are a few;

  • Decision making is easier because it gives you something against which to  measure your activities
  • It connects you with what is true about your life and helps you cut away what is false
  • It keeps you from getting tangled up in the unimportant details of your life
  • It keeps you from responding to the urgent rather than the important
  • It grounds you in the present rather than the past while helping you to plan for the future
  • It gives you clarity and focus for each day

Discovering your calling is an introspective and contemplative journey that takes commitment and time but the result is amazing.

What do you do once you recognize your calling? It becomes the force behind writing your life story.  It means you now determine to live an intentional and creative life.

When you know your calling, you can make decisions about your career, relationships and activities with the assurance that you are making choices that matter and that make a difference in the world.

Recently while talking to a client about her career, she related that she took her current job out of necessity.  Her family needed her income and it was what she found readily available.  While she has given it her best and it has provided for her family financially, it is wearing her out physically, mentally and spiritually.  It is time to make a different choice. This time she would like to make a choice knowing what gives her joy, from a position of abundance, rather than a position of scarcity.

We all have a calling and we are all called to write a story, to live a life that matters.

3 Ways to Create a Life Story that Matters

1. Be honest about your gifts, your talents, your unique wisdom.

This isn’t about bragging or being modest.  This is recognizing how you have been gifted to serve others.

2. Create a story that empowers you and others.

Now is the time to put those gifts to use.  Let your inner light shine!

3. Live your truth.

Rather than following the dictates of the culture or of people around you, determine what is true and follow that north star.

We all are given the ability necessary to create a legacy through the story of our lives.  It is up to us how we interpret and invest them.

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to discover your unique calling and reinvent your life?

Need a coach to help you moving forward?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  dream@lynnewatts.com

Coaching provided insightful information and suggestions to achieve goals, dreams and/or business. It was empowering and encouraging.  I don’t think I could have started my business without the guidance!  

~ Amy Molley, http://www.sensiblesensoryspaces.com/


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5 secrets to a Zen-like calm at work

Research shows that two out of every three people are unhappy at work… Are you one of them?

Did you know that there are a higher number of heart attacks on Sunday evening than any other day of the week?  Bet you can guess why…

Whether your job is your dream job or your personal nightmare, you can control how you feel about your work.

Think it’s possible to create a Zen-like happiness at work?  It absolutely is!

Realign yourself with your personal power and become the leader in your work life.  This means that rather than reacting to the daily grind, you take charge and create a schedule and a system for how you work.

Here are 5 secret tips:

  1. Plan a moment of reflection and intention every morning before you step into your work role.  You can do this in as little as 5 minutes. Stop doing anything.  Focus.  Breathe in calm and breathe out stress.  Finish these two sentences:
    1. Today I choose to be___________
    2. Today I choose to feel __________
  2. Develop your interests and relationships outside your work.  You are not your work.  Having a balanced life will help you appreciate both the time you spend at work and elsewhere.
  3. Create a list of priorities and stick with it. Evaluate each task to determine if you should…
    1. Eliminate it–Is it necessary?
    2. Automate it?
    3. Delegate it?–Are you doing unnecessary tasks?
    4. Do it later?–Is it THE top priority?
  4. Create a positive work environment.  Do not encourage or participate in gossip, negativity or drama.
  5. Take time at the end of each day to get set up for the next.  Clear your desk.  Prepare your space so that you can hit the ground running rather than spend time figuring out where to start.

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  dream@lynnewatts.com

Let’s start making a new future together.

Dream Achiever Coaching changed my style at work with amazing results! Through the DISC personality profile, I was able to identify my strengths and clarify my focus on my job. Lynne had several concrete time management and productivity recommendations that helped me get control of my time. My confidence and productivity have improved tremendously!  ~Liz Chadwick


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5 awesome books for getting stuff done

to-do list

Do you feel like you are always on the go but never getting stuff done?

Eshausted at the end of the day, but wonder if it was worth it?

Think that items on your To-Do-List are multiplying like rabbits but the hours in the day are shrinking?

Systems and Schedules are Key to a Creative Life

Many creatives are free spirits who dislike systems and structure.  One of the key things that I often work with newly entrepreneurial clients on is creating a schedule and organizing their priorities.
Notice that I didn’t say time management.  You can’t really manage time.  Time moves on regardless-but you can take control of how you schedule your day.
Creating a business is exciting and energizing when you are in the idea stage.  Once you progress into the actual implementation stage–it is easy to become driven by the demands of the moment.  Much better to live a creative life where you determine your priorities and schedule rather than a reactive life where you are reacting to whatever and whoever comes your way.
Creating your business in a world where many are satisfied with staying in their comfort zones requires vision, courage, commitment and consistency.   Is it possible to maintain your free spirit even when you have structure? Absolutely!  

Here are 5 awesome resources on priority management that I often recommend to clients:

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action

Too many entrepreneurs start a business because they are chasing the next great way to make money.  In his book, Start with Why, Sinek makes a case for recognizing why you want to create your business first.  Not only do you need to know your why but you need to understand how it is unique to you and your vision.  Knowing your why then drives your business system and priority management.


EntreLeadership: 20 Years of Practical Business Wisdom from the Trenches


Dave Ramsey takes you through the development of a business from start to finish and he doesn’t leave anything out! His principles are well thought-out and proven successful.  He includes a whole section on how to set priorities.   

No B.S. Time Management for Entrepreneurs: The Ultimate No Holds Barred Kick Butt Take No Prisoners Guide to Time Productivity and Sanity

While Dan Kennedy is an entrepreneur who is managing a large scale business, many of  his management tips are still worthwhile for the solo-preneur.  Some of the most important ones are:

  • Self-discipline is the secret sauce that makes you unstoppable
  • Recognize and avoid the time vampires that want to suck you dry
  • As an entrepreneur, your time is valuable–plan well!

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

I’ve read this book over and over.  The author makes a great case for simplifying your life and your business. Less is truly more.


Procrastinate on Purpose: 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time

This book addresses time management from a very unusual perspective.  Vaden maintains that many times we waste time by being too efficient and focusing on the wrong thing.  His system for setting priorities is unusual and effective.

 In the beginning of your entrepreneurial journey, setting priorities and creating systems will one of your biggest challenges.  How you handle that challenge will determine the success of your business.  

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Need a coach to hold you accountable?


Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  dream@lynnewatts.com

Let’s start making a new future together.



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Making headway on your dream or playing the waiting game?

Do you have a dream?

Maybe it’s to make some extra income in your side job.

Maybe it’s to make enough income in your side job to actually leave your day job.

Maybe it’s to finally write that book or start that business that you’ve been thinking about for oh, just about a lifetime…

Are you making progress or are you making excuses?

What’s keeping you stuck?

Let me take a guess–

You’re waiting until you have more time–  What if I told you that you already have all the time you need.  What if you rearranged your priorities and cut out all those unnecessary things that you agreed to do…but now wonder why you are doing them?

You’re waiting until you have more money.  What if I told you that people have started businesses, reinvented their lives and accomplished success when they had no money?   What if it were possible that moving forward with your goal would actually be making you money, not costing you money.  What if you operated from a position of abundance instead of a position of scarcity?

You’re waiting until you feel more confident about what you want to do–What if I told you no one feels confident when they are moving into new territory?  Instead, you need to make a commitment-step into your dream and the confidence will follow not precede the action?

You’re waiting until the perfect time (when the economy improves, when the children are grown, whenever)-

What if I told you that right now is the only shot you’ve got and there is no perfect time?

Would that change things for you?  Would you stop the waiting game?


Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  dream@lynnewatts.com

Let’s start making a new future together.

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Six reasons to create an exit plan from your job

Even if you think you never want to leave

Even if you love your job

Especially if the time to go was… last year.

Because life changes–you need a Plan B, even when:

  1. You think you have the most stable job in the world.  After all isn’t technology here to stay?  Aren’t nurses and teachers always in demand?  The answer of course is “It depends.”  The world is changing so rapidly, you can’t count on staying in your job forever like in the good ole days.  Whole industries get outsourced.  The popularity of particular careers comes and goes.  There is a shortage one day and a surplus the next.
  2. You love your co-workers and the culture of your work environment.  Like job stability, this can change overnight.  Bosses are transferred or move on.  Co-workers leave for better opportunities and before you know it, the culture and environment you loved just isn’t the same.  While you used to love going to work everyday, now it’s just… well, a routine.
  3. You are being paid well for your skills.  When you work for someone else, you have little control over the pay scale.  Maybe you’ve hit a glass ceiling and can’t progress.  Maybe your financial picture changes and you will need to increase your salary.  Maybe you simply could make more if you marketed your skills outside your current workplace.  It is always good to keep your options open.
  4. You are healthy, happy and living the dream now.  Life can change in the blink of an eye.  What if your health or the health of a family member changed?  What if you needed to take a sabbatical to care for an elderly parent or a chronically ill child?  What if your spouse is transferred to another state?  I’m not saying that you have to anticipate disaster, but its a good idea to always have some alternatives in mind.
  5. You’ve been in your job so long that you are the expert and think you are irreplaceable. I hate to tell you but no matter how valuable you are… someone could replace you.  Maybe not in every way, but they could adequately do your job.  The real question is “Have you stopped growing?”  “Are you bored with what you do?”  “Are you becoming complacent and lazy in your job because you’ve lost your zest and your enthusiasm?”
  6. You love the work that you do.  Sometimes we love the work  but the standards change.  We’re asked to do more and more with less and less resources.  Where we once had great freedom and chances for creativity, the job becomes more routine and  standardized.

What if tomorrow were the day that you woke and your world changed?

Would you know the direction you wanted to go in?

What if you had a Plan B?

Do you need an exit plan from your job?

Day Job to Dream Job:  Are you ready for a change?

Tired of having someone else tell you what to do and when to do it?

Are there days when you wonder what would happen if you got up, left your job and didn’t come back?

Was today one of those days?

Do you have a dream inside dying to get out?

Are you ready to get started creating work you love?

Do you need some help with creating a plan that will help you move closer to you dream job and dream life?  

Check out my coaching packages.  

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Ready to give up on your new business?



Feel like you’ve been working like a maniac on your business… with few results?

Wonder what you need to do to get the clients or the sales that you want?

Checking your website every few minutes to see if you’ve sold anything?

Thinking about giving up?

It’s easy to get discouraged when you are starting up a business.  The learning curve is steep and the results don’t always match your efforts.

Bet it’s not you and your business though that’s the problem…it’s the type of action you are taking

Passive Action

Most of us take a lot of passive action in start-up–which is fine because that is what we need.  You know;  attending workshops, reading books and blogs, listening to podcasts.  But it’s important not to get stuck there.  Because taking passive action can feel like you are really doing something when you are really just consuming something. It can become a comfortable place to camp out.

Bet you know someone who is a professional student right? That’s someone who is an expert at taking passive action.

Massive Action

Massive action on the other hand involves determining the result you want and then taking the action you need to get there for as long as it takes to get the result you want.

Starting a business is a lot like taking a trip.  If you turned around and went home every time you got stopped at a stop light then you’d never get to your destination.  But since you made the commitment to take the trip and actually arrive at your destination, you don’t give up every time you get stopped.  You just figure it is part of the journey.

How many times have you taken action and been disappointed with not getting the sale or the client?

What was your next step?

If “give up” was your answer then you don’t know what it means to take massive action.

What if instead of giving up, you anticipated those obstacles?

What if your next step was increasing your efforts?

How many prospective clients did you contact last week? Could you double that number this week?

That is massive action.

Make a commitment for 30 days.  Then take massive action to reach your goal.

Let me know how it works.

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  dream@lynnewatts.com

Let’s start making a new future together.


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10 secrets genuinely confident people never told you

Being confident is not a gift.  It’s not built into your DNA.  It’s a step by step learned process.

Genuinely confident people understand that being confident is not something that descends upon you, fully formed.

They didn’t wake up one morning and discover they were suddenly (thank goodness, it’s about time!) confident.

They didn’t take a fast acting, time release confident pill.

Just like everyone else, genuinely confident people face challenges, but they choose to create a confident mindset out of those challenges.  Here are the some secrets genuinely confident people don’t tell you:

1. They’re not confident all the time.

Confidence is the end result of taking the necessary steps to develop it. Even confident people have moments (many moments) of self-doubt and fear.  They just don’t let those moments define who they are and how they show up.

2. They have learned to make a commitment to their future.

Confident people have learned to look forward and determine the future they wish to have.  They set goals.  They envision the future and they make a commitment to make it happen.  They dream big and they play big.

3. They know the value of the past and learn from it.

For the genuinely confident person, the past is a wealth of information both positive and negative that can generate energy and focus for the future.  Understanding and reflecting on the stories and events of the past is an opportunity to start fresh; to build a better and stronger foundation. Instead of staying stuck in old patterns, confident people learn from their past experience and step into their future with that knowledge, consciously choosing what they will use going forward.

5. They recognize their skills, abilities and imperfections.

Genuinely confident people understand what makes them special and unique.  They let their talents and gifts shine! They’ve come to terms with who they are and have accepted their imperfections, which allows them to take imperfect action.   They understand that imperfections can be just as empowering as their gifts and talents.

6. They make a conscious choice to be authentic.

Confidence is not the same as being arrogant or conceited.  It is instead an inner alignment with their authentic selves. It’s a willingness to be seen as who they truly are, to be comfortable in their own skin and it shows.

7. They don’t judge or compare themselves to others.

Confident people have no need or want to compare themselves to others. They celebrate in other’s success and recognize it as a sign that it is an abundant world.  There is enough for all. Worrying about what others are doing, or not doing, is unnecessary and time-consuming, and creates a false sense of superiority or inferiority.

8. They know how to refocus, realign and renew.

When faced with problems or doubts, they realign with their intention and goals, review their plan and revise if necessary.   By refocusing, they can approach difficulties from a new perspective.

9. They know that courage comes before confidence.

Courage is not a lack of fear.  Courage is rather taking action in the face of fear.  Developing courage is like developing a muscle.  It always involves some pain but it is worth it in the end. Yes, it’s scary, but that’s all part of the dance. By doing it scared, they take control of their lives.

10. They take risks.

Confident people are risk takers.  But they don’t take risks because they are confident…they are confident because they take risks.  What drives them is growth and the opportunity to learn more about who they are, and what they can accomplish. They know there’s always a chance they may fail, but for them, failure is just another life lesson.

 Ready to take the next step toward developing your dream business?  Dream Achiever Coaching focuses on both your mindset and your self-confidence, as well as your business strategies.  

Read about it here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Sign up for a free clarity call and see if Dream Achiever Coaching is for you.  Email me at lynnewatts52@gmail.com to set up a Coaching Clarity Call.


I had lots of ideas, but no idea how to actually take the first step toward making my dream a reality. Lucky for me, the Dream Achiever Coaching program had everything that I needed to begin taking precious baby steps. The strategy sessions clearly identified each next step in an order that made perfect sense. And the mindset sessions gave me the confidence I needed to move forward!

~Ellen Quarles

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Five signs its time to make a change…


You’ve waited long enough…

  1. You’ve been waiting for things to get better…for a very long time.  Whether you are overwhelmed with the mounting workload on your job or hoping (and praying) that your boss will start giving you the recognition you deserve, your focus is on the wrong thing.  Things don’t change because we hope and pray they will, things change because we become a change agent and take charge of the situation.  Make sure that you’ve done your part to facilitate the change you want to see in your world.
  2. You’re miserable but secure–You’re fooling yourself on this one.  How many people do you know that have been laid off from safe jobs?  How many concessions have you made because…well at least I have benefits?  a steady paycheck?  I’m not a fan of ditching it all, just a fan of being realistic.  If you are miserable it’s a sign to explore your options.  I believe in making changes before changes happen to you.
  3. You’re bored  to death…but think it’s better than being stressed out (because you’ve been there too).   I hate to tell you that boredom and a lack of stimulation can be as stressful as a job where you are overwhelmed with pressure and responsibilities. If you aren’t excited about growing, changing, learning and developing new skills then you and your brain are dying…
  4. You’re hanging on until you get everything finished–perfectly of course.  Most jobs don’t have a finish line.  Finish one article and begin another.  Teach one semester and prepare for the next.  Complete the monthly report and start collecting data for the next one.  Sell two widgets and contact more prospects.  Recognize that waiting for the perfect time to make a change is an illusion that only exists in your mind.
  5. Your life is out of balance–You work all the time.  In fact, you’ve forgotten what it means to have a fun afternoon or weekend.  You’re always thinking about work even when you aren’t actually there.  You take your work home with you and do it in your spare time…okay, so you really don’t have spare time because you’re always working if not physically, at least mentally.

The ABC’s of change

Making a change is hard.  Even when it is a change for the better.  It’s easy to generate worry and anxiety about the future.  Here are a few quick tips to deal with the fear:

  1. Recognize that feelings of uncertainty and anxiety are normal.  They are a sign that you are moving forward into a new experience.  They are not a sign to quit.
  2. Create a plan.  Do some research.  Make a budget.  Create an action plan.  Put some structure around your move forward.
  3. Get some support.  Whether you find a mentor, a coach or a supportive BFF, going it alone is…well, lonely and often results in failure.

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  dream@lynnewatts.com

Let’s start making a new future together.

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Do you have a story to tell?

Open book magic


Your life is a story someone needs to hear.

Do you have a story to tell?

Do you read a book or watch a movie and think… I have a story that’s even better than that…

Do your friends and relatives tell you to write about your experience?

What is holding you back?

Some Common Roadblocks

Maybe you think you don’t have the time.

Maybe you think you don’t have the writing ability… you sit down and the words just don’t come.

Maybe you are overwhelmed by the whole process;  writing, publishing, and then–there’s the marketing.

Maybe you are an introvert and the thought of sharing something so personal is really intimidating.

What if I told you it is possible to share your story anyway?  Bet you knew that already:)

My Favorite Fairy Tale

When I was a little girl, my favorite fairy tale was Goldilocks and The Three Bears. You remember the story don’t you? Goldilocks sits in one chair and it is too big and she sits in another chair and it is too small. She finally sits in a third chair and it is JUST RIGHT!

I can’t tell you how strongly I identify with this little girl who is trying to get everything in her life ‘just right’. Much of my life’s goal has been to fly below the radar and take the comfortable risk-free path.  While the idea that following a certain path would take me to my destination without any mistakes is quite appealing, I frequently have to remind myself how unrealistic that is. After all, even Goldilocks had to try out a few options before she got it just right!

Recognizing that living a purposeful, intentional life involves making mistakes and taking risks is important because it gives us permission to try different options and to be okay with possible failure.

 The lesson for myself and Goldilocks is that being concerned with getting everything just right is really…just wrong.

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Your Story Matters

One of my favorite gifts that I received when I retired last year was this lovely canvas designed by Kelly Rae Roberts.  She is a favorite artist of mine since she began her career as a social worker,transitioned into being an artist and does this extraordinary art that combines quotes and collage.  Even though I don’t know her, I feel we share something in common and her art pieces always speak to me.

 This one says, Your beautifully, messy, complicated Story Matters, Tell It.

Don’t you just love that?

Do you believe that your story matters?

Are you telling it?

My Unremarkable Story

One of the reasons that I failed to tell my story in the past was because I believed it was not extraordinary.  After all, the story of a shy introvert who was so afraid of her voice that she tried to live under the radar while she waited for permission, waited to be discovered/rescued and waited for her life to be “just right”, isn’t a story worth telling… is it? To have a story to tell, you need one that’s remarkable, don’t you?  You need to have scaled mountain peaks, and overcome great obstacles, and slain a few dragons.  I hadn’t done any of that so what was there to tell?

It’s All in Your Perception

It wasn’t until I started telling my unremarkable story that I learned that telling my story could be an inspiration to others.  It could bring comfort, hope, and challenge to someone else who felt the same way. And then this amazing thing happened.  As I told my story, it became a remarkable story because through telling it I was no longer the shy introvert who tried be invisible and didn’t make a difference or take a risk.  I became the shy introvert who moved beyond the story I told myself to the confident, capable, make a difference in the world person that I am (most of the time!) today.

That’s a remarkable story isn’t it?  It’s a story of overcoming personal challenges, scaling seemingly impossible mountains of doubt and slaying some internal dragons.

Turns out there’s a lot to tell.

And there’s a lot of people who need to hear your story to give them the encouragement and the strength to slay their own dragons too.

What’s Your Story?

Do you believe that you have a story to tell?

Are you afraid that it’s too unremarkable, too messy, too imperfect, too shameful, too embarrassing to tell?

Begin today to share your story.  Maybe you begin with one sentence, one paragraph, one word.

Maybe you start slowly and cautiously, but please start.  Because your story does matter.

Tell it.  Someone is waiting to hear.

Want to read my whole story?  You can find it on Amazon:

The Call: Perfect Dream, Imperfect Life

Want some help to write your story and publish it?  I offer a coaching program designed for aspiring writers who are just getting started.  You can learn all about it here:  http://lynnewatts.com/whats-your-story/

Writing your book is only the beginning! Lynne Watts’ Self Publishing Guide offers an excellent and comprehensive guide  for the self-publishing process. She explains what you need to consider and implement before your book goes to print.
~Erin K. Casey, author of the Zany Zia’s Hats to Where adventure series


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4 secrets to tap into your brain’s positive energy

I was recently coaching a client who was beginning two new part-time jobs. Her biggest worry was being overwhelmed and stressed out with the new paperwork procedures that she would need to learn.  Here’s what she didn’t realize; she was generating lots of negative energy by her perspective on the paperwork.

Her mindset:  “I know myself well enough to know that I will be overwhelmed and stressed out with the new paperwork.”

This mindset made her…

you guessed it…overwhelmed and stressed out.

Here’s what she wasn’t taking into account:  This amazing, resourceful, talented woman had just recently and unexpectedly been let go from her former job, leaving her with a totally unplanned lack of income.  In less than a month, she had put out enough resumes to snag 5 (!) job offers of which she accepted 2 part-time.  So why would she even worry about being overwhelmed and stressed out about paperwork, after the stellar way she handled the previous crisis?

Our Inner Lizard Brain Loves to Keep Us Down and Out

Unfortunately we all have a tendency to focus on the negative which quickly becomes a habitual story.

Here are some examples:

  • I have ADHD so I can’t focus and I’ll never be able to …
  • I’ve always suffered from a lack of self-confidence…it’s just the way I am.
  • I’ve tried every diet known to man and I always gain the weight back.  I’m just wired to be overweight.
  • I always get overwhelmed and stressed out when I have to tackle something new like unfamiliar paperwork.

These are all stories that we tell ourselves.

They are figments of our brain’s imagination.

They are not reality–unless we make them so.

You Can Write a New Story

We can get a grip on the positive energy that is at our service, just waiting to be tapped into.

Here’s how:

  1. Observe your thoughts objectively.  Stop letting your brain run wild like an unruly toddler racing through the house with a pair of scissors in hand. Recognize that you are in charge of your brain and your thoughts. Write down your thoughts.
  2. Evaluate your thoughts and decide if they are serving you.  When you find yourself replaying that frustrating conversation or that aggravating situation over and over, ask yourself:  Is this thought bringing me happiness?  fulfillment? success?  If the answer is no, it’s time to grab that toddler and redirect them into some safer and more useful pursuits.
  3. Create a new thought pattern that serves you.  This is not a positive affirmation that is unrealistic and out of touch. Instead this is a focused thought that feels real, supportive and true to who you are.  In the example listed above, my client was able to acknowledge that having been successful in handling a near crisis in her career, that paperwork could be a non-issue for someone as resourceful as she had proven to be.  Here is how you might restate your stories:
    1. I create a daily focus plan than keeps me on track every day so I manage my diagnosis of ADHD
    2. When I feel lacking in self-confidence, I know it is a sign I’m about to do something new and challenging, not a sign that I am incapable. I don’t let it hold me back from growing and changing.
    3. I’m focused on eating healthy and maintaining a healthy lifestyle that provides my body with adequate energy and nutrition.
    4. I’ve tackled bigger challenges than paperwork and I am capable of learning something new with confidence and calm.
  4. Practice your positive message by saying it out loud.  Notice how often you are complaining to your partner about how stressed you are over your job?  Change the story and tell him or her what you appreciate about your job instead.  Do you frequently complain to your girlfriends about how you can’t lose weight no matter what?  Change your story and share what you love about your new healthy lifestyle and the difference it has made in your life.  While you are at it, take the next step and start a gratitude journal where you regularly affirm what is positive in your life.

Recognizing and harnessing the positive energy that we all possess will double the effect of your actions so that you can be your most successful self.

Changing your mindset is effective and rewarding but not necessarily easy. You will find lots of “reasons” or excuses for not doing it.  Don’t let them hold you back.

Just as the unruly toddler needs consistent discipline and love, so your inner lizard brain needs discipline and love.  Be the adult, the parent of your brain.

Of course it’s hard.

But it is so worth it.

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same. ~ Carlos Castaneda

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Erin Shaw

Erin Shaw

Wow!  Lynne’s expertise in Personality Styles, mindset and priority management paired with Kathy Brunner’s expertise in business building and goal setting is a powerful combination.  The interactive and personalized format was engaging and gave me tools I can use and actions I can take right away.  ~Erin Shaw

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