Three Ways to Be Mentally Strong

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If you are starting a new venture, a new career or any new endeavor you probably spend a lot of time checking into the the strategy involved in being successful.

Got a new job?  You might learn about the culture in the business or the procedures that are involved.

Creating a new product that you want to sell?  You probably research how to market and connect with your ideal customers.

Need to meet new contacts or clients?  You might learn about the best places to network or what to do when you get there.

Guess what we don’t usually think much about?  Creating the right mindset for being successful.

It seems a little too woo-woo

It seems too vague.

Guess what usually brings us down in our new venture?  Mindset.  Not that we recognize it.  Instead we blame the economy or our co-workers, or our boss or even ourselves for being inadequate.  Behind it all though is the beliefs that we entertain about ourselves and our world.

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The Secret Sauce for Success

Mindset is the secret sauce for success.  Not only does it have enormous power in our lives, it is also one thing that we can totally control.

What can we not change?  Many times we cannot change our circumstances.  Circumstances like being the oldest child in our family.  Or the age we are.  Or the type of upbringing we had.  Some circumstances of course we can change.  We hate our job or our boss is overbearing and degrading.  We can leave our job.  We are in a relationship that is abusive or non-supportive.  We can leave the relationship.

While we can’t always change our circumstances, we can always change our thinking.  Our brains and how we use them are under our control and by default so are our feelings or emotions.  Our thoughts create our feelings which ultimately determines our actions.  Pretty amazing how much control and power we have isn’t it?

Creating a Strong Mindset

There a several ways that we can develop a strong mindset which will ensure success in other areas.  Here are three practices to stay mentally strong:

  1. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself– Feeling sorry for yourself is giving away your power.  You are arguing with reality and telling the universe that it should operate differently.  Instead consider the situation research and development.  Learn from the situation and begin anew more intelligently.
  2. Don’t fear taking calculated risks–Success involves change and growth.  Tiny seeds make big changes to become grown plants.  Caterpillars struggle to break out of a comfortable cocoon without knowing the beautiful future ahead.  Without change and the risk of failure there is is no success.
  3. Don’t resent other’s success–When we compare ourselves to others and resent their success we are operating from a scarcity mindset.  We are in essence saying, “They got a raise and a new position and now there is less available for me.”  Don’t make other’s success about you.  Instead celebrate their gain and know that there is enough available in the world for you to be successful as well.

What ever your challenge, your future goals, make sure that you give as much attention to the mindset that you have going forward.  Strategy is important but recognizing the power of our beliefs about ourselves may make or break the deal.

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The Called Woman Conference 2015–Because You Are Worth It!

Have you had a dream for so long–you wonder if you should just give up on it ever coming true?

Have you tried a few things and found that they just didn’t work?

Are you frustrated and overwhelmed with the idea of making a change…even though you know you desperately need one?

Do you just wonder where to start?

The Called Woman Conference can help.

If you have been to the Called Woman Conference in the past, you already know what an amazing day it is. Well, this year will be no different.

In fact, this year will most likely be the BEST CONFERENCE EVER, and you know WHY?  Because this year we are focusing on creating Individual Action Plans for everyone who attends. We’ve talked about finding your purpose and going after your dreams before, but this time we want to make sure you leave with a STEP by STEP plan to achieve that in as little time as possible.

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We have created an extremely interactive 4 HOURS to pack an incredible toolbox for you to use specific to your goal.  We will take you through a step by step process and when the day is over,  you will have the blueprint and tools you need to go out and grab your best life now.

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Skills You will Learn

You will:

  • develop clarity of purpose
  • create priority management techniques
  • eliminate mindset messages that hold you back
  • learn how to maintain the momentum you’ve achieved
  • create a step by step action plan

 

Join us for a VERY SPECIAL CALLED WOMAN  CONFERENCE…Because You’re Worth It.

This will be the most individualized, intensive day  of building your dream you can ever imagine. We promise or we will gladly refund your money.

The Details 

Join us on Saturday April 25th from 9:00 am to 1:00pm at the

MUST Ministries Administration Building

1407 Cobb Parkway NW

Marietta, Georgia 30062

Ready to take the next step?

$49.95 register here.

BRINGING A FRIEND? We’d love you to!

$79.95 for BOTH of You!

Bring your mom, sister, colleague, BFF, daughter or grand­daughter.

Register here.

Can’t attend but want a recording of the conference?

$19.99 for DVD of the conference.

Invest in yourself and your future–you will be changing your life forever.

Come with an idea, a dream, a goal, a decision, a purpose…

LEAVE WITH THE TOOLBOX that will make it happen.

Can’t wait to see you there. April 25th…the day you walk in half empty and leave

overflowing.

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Sarah Spruill- A Life of Love

Sometimes I get so busy, I forget to be.

To enjoy the moment.

To savor the relationships.

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Then something happens that jerks me back to reality.

April 11th at 5:00 in the morning I got a phone call from the nursing home where my mother in law lives.  When they went in to take her vital signs, she was gone. She had passed away in her sleep.  One tear on her cheek.  A big smile on her face.

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The past couple of years have been difficult for her as her dementia worsened.  I’ve written before about the nightmare of moving her out of her apartment of  twenty years and finding placement for her, but once she settled into her new home, her true nature came out.

She loved her family.  “You’re family and I love you with all my heart, ” she told all of us over and over.

She thought every other resident in the nursing home was a family member and she spent her time caring for them.

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Pushing them around in their wheelchairs.

Helping them find their lost shoe or purse.

Lamenting  over the difficulties of life.

She thought her roommate, Grace, with the deep gravelly voice was her nephew, Tim.  On each visit she told me he had been sick and he had just returned from the hospital.  I didn’t argue.

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Whenever her sister Shelby visited from out of town, she urged to her to stay and spend the night.  “There’s plenty of beds here,” she’d say.

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She loved to socialize.  She had friends everywhere.  Even when she barely knew who I was she’d always greet me with, “I’m so glad you came to see me.”   She always thanked me for coming when I left.

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In the end, she just faded away.  Less mobile.  Less talkative. I’d ask her what she was thinking and she’d look up startled. “I don’t know” she’d say.

In her last phone conversation with her sister, she told Shelby, “I got to go, Alton’s coming to get her.”  We didn’t realize that she was right.

Sarah Frances Spruill.

Mother in Love.

You were loved.

 

 

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There’s no Age Limit to Dreaming

I’ve been busy preparing for the upcoming Called Woman Conference which is Saturday, April 25th (I hope you will join us) and in doing that I reviewed some of the video testimonials that participants made last year.  Here’s one that really touched me because it is so personal and spoken from the heart.  See if you can catch what I’m talking about:

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Here’s the link:  http://acalledwoman.com/testimonial/

Did you hear it?  Weren’t you inspired by Sandi saying, “Although I’m well into my senior years, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have dreams.  I still have much that I want to accomplish and I find that inspiration at the Called Woman Conference. “

Achieving dreams knows no age limitations.  In fact, sometimes it is in our later years that we really hit our stride and begin accomplishing our heart felt goals.

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Meet Rae Mohrmann.

Marathon runner.

Set a goal of running a marathon in all fifty states,when she was 52 years old.

Accomplished it… at age 62.

Will run her 100th marathon April 12th in St Louis.

Her next goal?

Run a marathon with three generations, her son and grandson.

What is your dream?  

Maybe its not running a marathon but I bet it’s something.  Learn to paint? Write a book?  Develop your own business? Create an organization to help your favorite charity?

Think it’s impossible?  You’re too old?  too young?  Don’t have the resources? Missed your window of opportunity?

Rae started running at age 30.  She was a full time teacher and a single parent when she started out running around her apartment building.  She eventually expanded her running program but she didn’t run her first marathon until age 49. When someone pointed out to her that she would be almost 80 by the time she could meet her goal of running with three generations of her family, guess what she replied?  “Well, I’m going to be almost 80 anyway, so why not?”

Here’s the motto on her refrigerator:  Things turn out the best for those who make the best of how things turn out.  Don’t you just love that?

I’m dedicated to making sure things turn out the best for you. Let’s work together and make your goals come true. I’m holding that space for you to step into your dream.

Here’s what’s coming up:

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Following your dream, your passion is energizing, exciting and rewarding.

It can also be exhausting, frustrating and downright discouraging.

Sometimes you feel like you take two steps forward and three steps back.

Sometimes you wonder if it is EVER going to work out.

Maybe you feel like giving up altogether…

Then this teleseminar is for you! Get the details and sign up here:  http://acalledwoman.com/teleseminar

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The Called Woman Conference 2015–Because You Are Worth It!

Have you had a dream for so long–you wonder if you should just give up on it ever coming true?

Have you tried a few things and found that they just didn’t work?

Are you frustrated and overwhelmed with the idea of making a change…even though you know you desperately need one?

Do you just wonder where to start?

The Called Woman Conference is designed to help you take the next step.

Get the details here:  http://acalledwoman.com/CWCdeets

Register here:  http://acalledwoman.com/CWC2015

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Four Road Blocks to Success

If you want to win, you’ve got to start. ~John Maxwell

Do you have trouble getting started?

Do you have an idea that has been a dream for a while, maybe even a few years, but you’ve just never gotten around to doing anything about it?

Maybe you took a step or two in that direction but ran up against a road block and quit.  You’re not sure if you should even keep trying.  Was the road block a sign that you should give it up?

Maybe you’ve been stopped dead in your tracks by an unexpected event?  a family member’s actions that were totally un-expected?  a change in routine?  a bump in your career path?

In the movie A Bug’s Life, the ants are stopped short by a road block, a leaf in their path.  Here’s how the problem is solved:

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I spent years staring at a leaf in my path as I tried to publish my children’s books.  I truly felt that some day, some way the obstacle would magically disappear and when it didn’t I continued waiting.  Much like in the ants in the movie, it took someone telling me to “Walk around the leaf!”  before I started considering all my options and began moving forward.

What about you?  Is there an obstacle in your path?  Are you waiting for something to happen?  While getting started is an action step, many times it is our internal critical voice that prohibits us from taking that first step.

Four Key Roadblocks to Getting Started

Not knowing exactly what you want. If you haven’t yet set a goal it’s hard to achieve. Many times we distract ourselves by identifying so many possibilities that we are overwhelmed with the choices. We say things like, “I could do anything…if I only knew what it was that I wanted to do.” This involves giving ourselves permission to take imperfect action. Pick one or two goals and put 100% of your effort into achieving it. You can always backtrack to other minor goals later.

We know what we want but we are afraid to commit to it. We are afraid we may fail. We secretly have a desire, a goal but we are afraid that if others knew about it, we would be turned down, rejected, embarrassed. This involves giving ourselves permission to make mistakes.  When things don’t work out we say things like, “I guess it just wasn’t meant to be.” or “I guess I’m just not cut out for this.” We are actually cheating ourselves with this one. The universe is often more willing to support us in achieving our goals than we recognize.

We are afraid of success. Just as fear of failure can paralyze us, so can fear of success. What if we don’t really know what to do, how to act, how to perform? What if we are overwhelmed with the responsibility of success, the amount of time and energy that it requires? What if we are successful and it turns out not to be what we expect it to be? This fear involves giving ourselves permission to be vulnerable.  Again our internal voice is paralyzing us with what if questions. We may say, “What if I succeed and everyone thinks I know everything and then find out I don’t?” We fail to recognize the flexibility, the power and the control that we have in any given situation.

We know what we want but we don’t know the steps, or the way to achieve it. This is a research question. There is always someone who has gone before us in all that we do. We need to find a role model and connect with them to discover how they were successful. We can then design our own way.  This involves giving ourselves permission to invest in ourselves because we are worth it. So often we fail to move forward because we don’t feel that we are worth the money, time or energy that it takes to learn and grow exponentially.

Sound like a daunting job? It is difficult but not impossible. Roadblocks can be cleared and the road paved for success. Where do you want to be this time next year?  in five years?  Give yourself permission to take imperfect action, invest in yourself, be vulnerable and make mistakes.  Walk around the leaf…

Need some help walking around your self-limiting beliefs?

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Attend the Called Woman Conference 2015–Because You Are Worth It!

If you have been to the Called Woman Conferences in the past, you already know what an amazing day it is. Well, this year will be no different. In fact, this year will most likely be the BEST CONFERENCE EVER!

WHY? Because this year we are focusing on creating Individual Action Plans for everyone who attends. We’ve talked about finding your purpose and going after your dreams before, but this time we want to make sure you leave with a STEP by STEP plan to achieve that in as little time as possible.

Read more about the conference here:

http://acalledwoman.com/CWCdeets

Sign up to attend here:

http://acalledwoman.com/CWC2015

Looking for a coach to help you walk around the leaf?  Check out my coaching plans:

http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

 

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Are you living in the middle of a drought?

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Spring has arrived in Georgia and everything is bursting into bloom.  In the midst of the rainy cool days and the green all around, it’s hard to anticipate the dry heat drenched days of the summer but I know that they are coming.

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Plants Need Water–Duh!

I’ve done this more than once.  I work for hours in the garden, weeding, transplanting, moving plants here and there, then exhausted I gather up all my tools and head inside for a well deserved break.  I just figure I’ll water the newly transplanted plants later.  Unfortunately, this usually means I forget about them altogether and the next day I find my plants wilted beyond belief. Sometimes I can rescue them… sometimes not.

Of course I know that watering is essential.  It just didn’t always happen.

People Need Nourishment–Duh!

Gardening reflects life in a lot of ways.  Just as plants need water, we all need refreshment and nourishment in our lives. There have been numerous times in my career and daily life when I have become so consumed with the details and the tasks, that I forgot to take time to refresh and nourish my mind and my body. There have been whole seasons of my life when my only goal was to to get through the day at work and at home in the easiest simplest way possible, always flying under the radar and staying clear of any problems.  I was just marking time until I could get to the weekend or evening when I could do what I wanted and relax.

In many ways, my life was in drought mode not growing mode.  Much like a plant during a drought, I was just waiting and hoping for a better growing season next year.

Are You Living in Drought Mode or Growing Mode?

A few years ago, I came to my senses and decided to begin living more intentionally.  Rather than living a reactive life where I was constantly putting out fires and reacting to everything around me, I began living a creative life.   I established priorities and I pushed myself into new areas and new ventures.  I attended conferences and workshops.  I hired a coach.  I established a new business outside of my day job.

It’s been risky.

It’s been scary.

It’s been exhilarating!

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Water is essential to life.

It’s a reciprocal relationship of course.

When you give water, the plant flourishes.

When you neglect them, both plants and our spirits wither and die.

Is your life in drought mode?

What about you? Have you been in drought mode so long that it’s become the new normal?  Like my thirsty plants, are you waiting and hoping that the next month, the next year, the next season will be better?  Or are you watering the plant?  Are you living intentionally and nourishing yourself? I’d love to hear in the comment section what drought mode is for you…

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A Called Woman Coaching Team wants to help you get out of drought mode:

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Learn about the online class and super bonuses here:

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Five Reasons Not to Hire a Coach

This week I’ll be attending a three day retreat that focuses on all aspects of my coaching and writing business.  I’m looking forward to being back in the company of so many other entrepreneurial women who are energetically and passionately following their calling. Although I began creating a life that followed my calling over five years ago, it wasn’t until recently that I actually signed up with a coach to aggressively move forward on that dream.

 

What took me so long to ask for and get the help that I needed?  I’m an expert at talking myself out of doing stuff and waiting for a better time.  I find that creative, professional women are often the best at coming up with some of the most convincing reasons to not ask for help.  Here are some I’ve used myself.

Five Reasons  Excuses Not to Hire a Coach

  1. I’m trained as a helping professional and I coach/counsel others all the time.  I’ll just coach myself.  This one is the most dangerous.  I should know.  I’ve used it for years.  Just as you can’t counsel/coach your own family successfully, you can’t coach yourself.  You fool yourself.  You talk yourself out of things.  You ignore  the signs that are obvious to others.  You get in a rut.  I know mechanics work on their own cars and plumbers fix their own pipes but there are too many false paths that we can get lost on if we try to coach ourselves.
  2. It’s too expensive.  Behind this excuse is the belief that we aren’t worth it. Investing in ourselves is a commitment that signifies that we are committed to following up and following through. When was the last time that you invested in your inner self and your future?  While we’ll buy something that will change our outer appearance, ( a new Easter dress or hairdo that will soon be out of style), we question the value of paying for something that will continue to give value to our life forever. (Notice I didn’t say these excuses made sense.)
  3. There are lots of free webinars and ebooks available that I can use instead.  I’ll just get read them and apply what I’ve learned first and then later, if I still need help, I’ll hire a coach. The trouble with this statement is that it is a half truth.  There are hundreds of free resources available and it is a great idea to take advantage of them.  The role of a coach though is to help you put the things you learned into practice.  So a coach might help you narrow down the most effective ebooks to read and then personalize how the strategies you learned will work best for you. A coach is personal and specific to your situation while a webinar or book is not.
  4.  I don’t have the time.  This is actually a good reason to hire a coach.  A coach will help you streamline your efforts.  A coach will help you prioritize tasks and provide a sounding board for making decisions. A coach will guide you down a productive path and help you eliminate time-wasting activities.  Bottom line though is that we all make time for the things that are most important to us.
  5. It’s too early (or too late) and I’m not ready yet.  The fact is, we’re never ready.  We could always be farther ahead.  We could get a bigger better website, email list or product.  We could wait until we’re in a different season of life.  Waiting though means that we are missing out on the opportunity to grow right where we are now. Later doesn’t really mean a better time.  It just means a different time with different challenges.  There will never be a perfect time so take imperfect action now, right where you are.

Want to stop the excuses and create the life that you dream of?  Check out my coaching packages.

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Three Questions to Simplify Your Life

Simple can be harder than complex. You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end, because once you get there, you can move mountains.  Steve Jobs

This week I’ll be sharing information about A Called Woman Coaching with the Kennesaw Business Association at the monthly luncheon.  As a new member, I get one minute to tell the group about who I coach, how I work with clients and the results they can expect.  One minute.  Sixty seconds.  Steve Jobs was right, simple is definitely harder than complex.

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Three Questions

Discovering your calling and following it through to create the life you dream of is also simple… and hard. Here are three important questions to ask herself to get you started:

  1. What is the greatest life lesson that I have learned that I am passionate about sharing with others?   The answer to this question is the basis of A Called Woman coaching.  Just as I learned to stop waiting to follow my dream, I share with others the practical steps they can take to turn a dream into a reality.  It’s never too late to take imperfect action. We’ve all learned something and have lessons to share.
  2. What am I doing right now that I need to drop out of because I’m not passionate about it and it doesn’t fit into my plan?  Have you diluted your talents?  Have you created obligations that are draining your time but don’t really fit in with your mission?  Did you agree to do something temporarily that has become permanent?  Are you trying to do everything when you could eliminate or delegate some of those tasks ?  If your answer to any of these questions is yes, then narrow down your focus and simplify your life.  Most clients that I talk to are so afraid of missing out on something and consequently so over-committed that they can’t find the time or energy to pursue their passion.  Say yes sparing and no frequently.  Create a priority management system rather than a time management system. Don’t be a generalist who says yes to every opportunity that comes along. Be selective.  Be excellent.  Be remarkable.
  3. If I only picked three things that I would do what would they be?  Now narrow it down to the one thing to focus on NOW.  Simple is harder than complex but it is energizing and fulfilling.  Find the area that really uses your expertise and your passion.  Now set up a schedule and create a plan to focus on that area.

Less is More 

A television show that I have watched with interest on numerous occasions is Restaurant Impossible.  In the show, chef Robert Irvine, evaluates restaurants that are on the brink of failure and not only renovates the physical space but changes everything from staff to menu options.  For each session, he typically has the cooks prepare all of the main dishes, tries them and revamps the menu.  Here is one thing he always does;  he downsizes the menu.  Instead of pages of items, he always has them create a select few items  and make them really well.  We too can learn from this scenario.

Are you trying to be a generalist or are you working with focus in your area of strength?  What do you need to let go of?  What do you need to ramp up?  I’d love to hear in the comment section below!

Want to identify and work in your strengths? Ready to stop waiting and follow your calling now? Check out my dream achiever coaching program:   http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

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Decision Making in Seven Steps

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I used to be indecisive.  Now I’m not so sure.  Tommy Cooper, comedian

Decisions.  We all make them.  Constantly.  I used to think I had difficulty making decisions.  I’d waffle back and forth on something.  I’d put it on the back burner and forget about it for a while.  Later, I’d revisit it.  I’d reconsider.  I’d ask people for their opinion.  I’d agonize over what to do.  You get the idea.  I was definitely indecisive.  Then I found a new perspective.  Here’s what I’ve learned:

Not making a decision is actually the same as making a decision.  You are just fooling yourself.  Eventually whatever the decision was, it is made in the negative.  Let’s say for instance, I’m trying to decide which of several colleges to apply to.  I research. I contemplate.  I talk to friends.  But I never decide and so I never apply to any college.  My decision?  Not to go to any of the choices.  Or lets say I want to change jobs.  I talk about it all the time.  I read about job openings and fantasize about what it would be like to have another job.  But I never apply for another job.  My decision?  To stay in my current job even though I am miserable there.  Not deciding and following up on that decision is the same as deciding to stay right where I am.

Not making a decision drains your energy.  When you have a pending decision that you are in the process of deciding, you have energy that is expended in that effort.  No matter what stage you are in, whether you are waiting for something else to happen, or whether you have tabled the decision until you are in a better frame of mind or whether you are actively researching the facts–that unmade decision is draining your energy.  As soon as you make the decision, no matter the outcome, you have released that energy for other things.

You always have a choice–even when you think you don’t.  Seth Godin writes that “I had no choice,” actually means “I had only one path that was easy in the moment.”  Even doing nothing  in a situation is a choice.  Think you can’t afford to change jobs, go to school or leave a relationship?  There is always another way, it just many not be as easy as the path you are on now.  It may take more effort, time, money, creativity and risk than what you are doing–but there is a choice.

Seven Steps to Making a Decision  

  1. State the problem.  This seems obvious but how often have you wrestled with something endlessly without clearly defining what the decision is?
  2. Set a time table.  Make it reasonable.  Give yourself a few days or a few weeks depending on the circumstances but nail it down.  Going on for months and years without deciding is draining your energy.
  3. Research and get advice.  Use more than one source.  Get more than one opinion.
  4. List the alternatives.  Clearly identify your choices.  Remember you always have more than one.
  5. Choose the best choice. 
  6. Take imperfect action. A decision does not have to be perfect.  In fact, it probably won’t be.  Make it anyway.  A decision is useless unless you act on it.
  7. Evaluate the results.  Instead of thinking of all decisions as life or death, consider them research and development.  The more decisions you make, the better you become at it and the more resources you have to draw on for the next decision.

Here’s a great decision to make:  Join me for the next awesome teleseminar:  Rx-Burnout

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The Secret to Getting What You Want

Are you just dreaming about your future?  Or are you creating your future?  Are you asking for the opportunities you want or are you wishing the pieces would magically fall into place?  Are you living a reactive life or a creative life?  In this video Steve Jobs reveals the secret to getting what you want in your life.  You won’t believe how simple his recommendation is:

Now that you know the secret, what is holding you back?  Yeah, I know… it’s scary isn’t it?  In fact, asking for what we want is so uncomfortable that I bet you are already creating excuses as to why this won’t work for you.

Here are some common excuses:

  • If they wanted to give it away they would do it without me having to ask.
  • They should know that I need ____, without me having to ask.
  • If I ask and fail, I’ll feel really embarrassed and foolish.

But what if? What if asking for what you want works? 

  • What if it’s possible for you to serve others better and create a better life for others if you asked?  Often we don’t ask because we feel it is selfish and self-centered but what if you looked more closely at what you are asking for? Would it not only help you create the life you want but also help you to help others?  If this is true then NOT asking because it makes you uncomfortable is really the more selfish thing.
  • What if it’s possible that others are waiting to be asked by you?  We can’t read other’s minds and we can’t assume they know our needs.  Think back to a time someone asked you for something and how excited and willing you were to give it to them.  Do you want to cheat someone else of that opportunity to be generous?  Weren’t you glad someone asked you for what they needed?
  • What if it’s possible that simply the process of asking will expand your horizons, whether or not you get what you are asking for?  Even if you are turned down when you ask for what you want, just the experience and habit of asking for something can grow you as a person and help you establish new relationships with others.

The Challenge

Here’s my challenge to you.  Identify something you want or need but have been reluctant to ask for.  If you need to write out what you will say or even practice asking out loud, allow yourself some time to do that.  Silence the excuses and schedule a time to ask.  Then… ASK IT.  I’d love to hear the results in the comments section!

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The Burnout Cure: Seven Tips

 

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Are you overwhelmed?

Overworked?

Over-committed?

All of the above?  So many women that I talk to everyday would describe themselves as burned out not fired up. Days are characterized by TOO MUCH.

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There is too much to do on the job. Just answering emails is a never-ending task.

There is too much to do at home. When they arrive at home, the evening is spent catching up on numerous family responsibilities;  chauffeuring children to endless activities, house-keeping tasks and helping with homework.

Oh, yes and then there is connecting with your spouse. Who has time for quality time with your significant other?

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What’s the antidote to burnout?  Here are seven tips to keep your life from spinning out of control

  1. Spend time on the weekend creating a master schedule for your upcoming week and setting your priorities. Be realistic and reasonable. Create theme days whenever possible. This means that Monday may be the day to spend the day writing or connecting with clients. Set aside one day for appointments or errands so that you can maintain focus.
  2. For any task that you plan, first ask yourself:
    • Is this necessary? If the answer is no, then eliminate it! We all have too many things we are doing mindlessly that aren’t even useful or necessary.
    • Can this be automated? For instance, pay bills online, automatically. Set up systems whenever possible.
    • Can this be delegated? Too many working women still hold themselves responsible for innumerable  chores that they could easily have someone else do. Can your children pitch in? Can you alternate the task with a friend or a neighbor? Can you pay someone to do it?  Save your energy and time for what you do best (your genius work) and what no one else can do (your relationships).
  3. Create a morning routine that sets you up for a successful day. Get up early enough to spend some quiet time in reflection and setting your priorities for the day.   DO NOT begin the day by checking email, Facebook or any other social media forum. Create and work your own agenda not someone else’s.
  4. Say yes sparingly and no frequently. There are endless opportunities and possibilities in everyday life. If you say yes to all of them, you will soon be over-committed, over-whelmed and over-worked. Know your main purpose and mission so that you only say yes to those things that fulfill that purpose. Don’t let someone else or your own conscience guilt you into saying yes when you need and want to say no.
  5. Create healthy rituals and routines that are a habit not a choice. Schedule your exercise times and downtimes just like you would schedule an appointment with an important client. (Which, by the way YOU ARE your most important client). Plan ahead for healthy eating options so you don’t default to drive-through-fast-food.
  6. Practice gratitude. Staying in touch with what you are grateful for on a daily basis will decrease your burnout and increase your joy.  Guaranteed.
  7. Give yourself a break. Most entrepreneurs and career women are incredibly hard on themselves and hold themselves to an impossibly high standard. The benefit of this is that you accomplish more and what you do is of higher quality. Make sure that you know when to turn it off and just relax. Practice saying: Now it’s time to stop working so that I can renew and refresh myself. Then do it!!

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