4 secrets to tap into your brain’s positive energy

I was recently coaching a client who was beginning two new part-time jobs. Her biggest worry was being overwhelmed and stressed out with the new paperwork procedures that she would need to learn.  Here’s what she didn’t realize; she was generating lots of negative energy by her perspective on the paperwork.

Her mindset:  “I know myself well enough to know that I will be overwhelmed and stressed out with the new paperwork.”

This mindset made her…

you guessed it…overwhelmed and stressed out.

Here’s what she wasn’t taking into account:  This amazing, resourceful, talented woman had just recently and unexpectedly been let go from her former job, leaving her with a totally unplanned lack of income.  In less than a month, she had put out enough resumes to snag 5 (!) job offers of which she accepted 2 part-time.  So why would she even worry about being overwhelmed and stressed out about paperwork, after the stellar way she handled the previous crisis?

Our Inner Lizard Brain Loves to Keep Us Down and Out

Unfortunately we all have a tendency to focus on the negative which quickly becomes a habitual story.

Here are some examples:

  • I have ADHD so I can’t focus and I’ll never be able to …
  • I’ve always suffered from a lack of self-confidence…it’s just the way I am.
  • I’ve tried every diet known to man and I always gain the weight back.  I’m just wired to be overweight.
  • I always get overwhelmed and stressed out when I have to tackle something new like unfamiliar paperwork.

These are all stories that we tell ourselves.

They are figments of our brain’s imagination.

They are not reality–unless we make them so.

You Can Write a New Story

We can get a grip on the positive energy that is at our service, just waiting to be tapped into.

Here’s how:

  1. Observe your thoughts objectively.  Stop letting your brain run wild like an unruly toddler racing through the house with a pair of scissors in hand. Recognize that you are in charge of your brain and your thoughts. Write down your thoughts.
  2. Evaluate your thoughts and decide if they are serving you.  When you find yourself replaying that frustrating conversation or that aggravating situation over and over, ask yourself:  Is this thought bringing me happiness?  fulfillment? success?  If the answer is no, it’s time to grab that toddler and redirect them into some safer and more useful pursuits.
  3. Create a new thought pattern that serves you.  This is not a positive affirmation that is unrealistic and out of touch. Instead this is a focused thought that feels real, supportive and true to who you are.  In the example listed above, my client was able to acknowledge that having been successful in handling a near crisis in her career, that paperwork could be a non-issue for someone as resourceful as she had proven to be.  Here is how you might restate your stories:
    1. I create a daily focus plan than keeps me on track every day so I manage my diagnosis of ADHD
    2. When I feel lacking in self-confidence, I know it is a sign I’m about to do something new and challenging, not a sign that I am incapable. I don’t let it hold me back from growing and changing.
    3. I’m focused on eating healthy and maintaining a healthy lifestyle that provides my body with adequate energy and nutrition.
    4. I’ve tackled bigger challenges than paperwork and I am capable of learning something new with confidence and calm.
  4. Practice your positive message by saying it out loud.  Notice how often you are complaining to your partner about how stressed you are over your job?  Change the story and tell him or her what you appreciate about your job instead.  Do you frequently complain to your girlfriends about how you can’t lose weight no matter what?  Change your story and share what you love about your new healthy lifestyle and the difference it has made in your life.  While you are at it, take the next step and start a gratitude journal where you regularly affirm what is positive in your life.

Recognizing and harnessing the positive energy that we all possess will double the effect of your actions so that you can be your most successful self.

Changing your mindset is effective and rewarding but not necessarily easy. You will find lots of “reasons” or excuses for not doing it.  Don’t let them hold you back.

Just as the unruly toddler needs consistent discipline and love, so your inner lizard brain needs discipline and love.  Be the adult, the parent of your brain.

Of course it’s hard.

But it is so worth it.

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same. ~ Carlos Castaneda

Need a coach to help you create successful mindsets?Ready to make a change in your life?Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess
Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  lynnewatts52@gmail.com
Let’s stop making excuses and start making a new future.I’m looking so forward to being a part of the changes in your life!

Erin Shaw

Erin Shaw

Wow!  Lynne’s expertise in Personality Styles, mindset and priority management paired with Kathy Brunner’s expertise in business building and goal setting is a powerful combination.  The interactive and personalized format was engaging and gave me tools I can use and actions I can take right away.  ~Erin Shaw

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The #1 Habit Guaranteed to Increase Your Success

What do you need to do to be successful in your business,

in your relationships,

in your personal goals?

Maybe you think you need to create a schedule and stick to it.

Maybe you think you need to work hard and never give up.

Maybe you think you need to write down your goals and revisit them often.

These things are all important.  But there is one habit that is even more important.  To stay true to your vision and reach the level of success that you dream of, you need to create a system of accountability.

We all have days when we are discouraged and frustrated.

We all feel unmotivated and want to give up from time to time.

Successful people have all those feelings and more.

But successful people plan ahead for those times and set up an accountability partner to keep them on track.

My Accountability System

I’ve spent the last year in Christine Kane’s Uplevel Your Business Gold Academy and one of the key pieces of the program that has kept me going is having an accountability partner.  You can see me in the photo above at one of the retreats with Christine and my accountability partner, Mary Frances.  Last week, I attended another Uplevel Event with my new accountability partner, Judy.

me and Judy at UPlevel

Wonder how an accountability partner can be a game changer for you?  Here are some of the ways:

1. They challenge you to work outside your comfort zone.

An accountability partner knows when to push you to stop being safe, to align with your inner strength and step into your power.

2. They share their knowledge and experience.

Trying to figure everything out on your own is limiting not to mention lonely.  Having an accountability partner can give you a new perspective and much needed support.

3. They help you see the big picture.

Focusing on the small details can create a never-ending downward spiral.  You lose track of your vision.  An accountability partner can be more objective and help you keep your eyes on the goal.

4. They call you out on your excuses.

Lying to yourself is easy to do. So is blaming your past, procrastinating and giving in to your personal fears. An accountability partner can call you out in these areas and get you in a more creative and innovative mindset so you can move forward.

10. They stay positive (even when you don’t).

Jim Rohn liked to say that we are the average of the 5 people we hang with the most.  Negative people are destructive to be around when it comes to achieving success. You start to view the world in a negative way yourself and it can lead to you giving up on your dream.  If I’ve learned anything in the last year, it’s the importance of mindset in achieving a successful business.  If you have a positive supportive accountability partner, you are stacking the cards in your favor.

To be successful requires commitment and determination. Your accountability partner can be a coach, a mentor, a friend or a cohort.  You can create the life of your dreams if you set yourself up with the #1 habit of success, a system for accountability.

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  lynnewatts52@gmail.com

Let’s stop making excuses and start making a new future.

I’m looking so forward to being a part of the changes in your life!

 

 lizagainDream Achiever Coaching changed my style at work with amazing results! Through the DISC personality profile, I was able to identify my strengths and clarify my focus on my job. Lynne had several concrete time management and productivity recommendations that helped me get control of my time. My confidence and productivity have improved tremendously!  ~Liz Chadwick

 

 

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Are you accidentally sabotaging your dream?

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Are you waiting for your knight in shining armor?

Do you have a story to tell but can’t figure out how to get started?

Do you have a dream business that you are waiting to begin, when you have more time and money?

Are you waiting for a sign that you need to leave your job and start a new venture?

I’ve spent a lot of time waiting too

I used to believe that if I waited long enough, something would eventually happen that would clarify what I should do to turn the dream of writing and publishing a book into a reality. I thought the stars needed to align, my family needed to be happy and successful, my life peaceful and harmonious. Once all of that was in place, I expected someone to walk into my life and perhaps announce, “Any one here interested in writing?  Maybe you’d like to publish a book someday?  Well, follow me!”

Would it surprise you to know that never happened?

Here’s the thinking that kept me stuck:

When I……. then I will….  

Here’s some examples:

When I have the confidence I need, then I will take a writing class.

When I have written something really good, then I will call myself a writer.

When I have sold enough books,  then I will feel like a success.

Do you see the problem with this type of thinking?

It sets us up to be forever waiting and never taking action.  It creates a cause and effect situation that doesn’t really exist anywhere but in our minds.  If I waited for the  confidence I needed to take action…well I’d still be waiting.

I finally figured out that waiting wasn’t working.

Does this happen to you?  Do you say…

When I have enough time, then I will start that business, write that book, travel to my dream destination.

When I lose some weight then I will start exercising.

When I get over being so anxious and afraid, then I will attend a networking meeting.

Change Your Thinking and Take Action Anyway

It may be imperfect action like doing something before you have the confidence to do it but take action anyway.  It doesn’t have to be a big step.  It can be tiny.  But you must quiet the inner critic and begin.  Turn the equation around and take charge of your life:  

I choose to attend a networking meeting even though I am nervous.

I choose to start my dream business even though I have a lot of demands on my time.

I choose to start exercising even though I haven’t lost all the weight I want.

Take a look at the thinking that is holding you back.

Are you accidentally sabotaging your dreams because you are waiting?

Are you preventing yourself from taking action because you are waiting?

What if you stopped waiting and took action anyway?

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan for your job?

Join me for 60 Days to Independence, an online class that will get you on the road to a new career and a new life.

Find out more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60daysinfo

Grab your seat here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60days

Erin Shaw

Erin Shaw

Wow!  Lynne’s expertise in Personality Styles, mindset and priority management paired with Kathy Brunner’s expertise in business building and goal setting is a powerful combination.  The interactive and personalized format was engaging and gave me tools I can use and actions I can take right away.  ~Erin Shaw

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Ten ways to make the most of a conference

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Conferences can be a great motivator

Do you love attending conferences that get you fired up and energized?

Do you leave a conference and a few days later wonder where the momentum went?

Do you wish you could bottle the information and energy of a great conference?

Stephen Covey in his Seven Habits of Highly Successful People identifies the key habit of Sharpen the Saw.  This means to  always be learning and growing.

   Dan Miller was the first coach I knew that recommended a budget item for self improvement and I’ve followed this advice for years.

Make the Most of Your Next Conference

I used to show up at a conference and hope it would be worthwhile.  I would just sit back and take it all in. Not any more.  Now I come actively prepared to learn. What does that mean?  

 Think about what information you want to walk away with.

This week I will be attending Christine Kane’s Uplevel Conference in downtown Atlanta. Here are some tips I’ll be using to maximize my conference experience:

  1. Review the schedule and plan your time.  Get to sessions early if you expect them to be crowded and sit in the front of the room.
  2. For any given topic, have a list of questions you would like to have answered.  Ask them.
  3. If you attend a conference with a friend make sure they are as eager to learn as you are.  Don’t let them distract you from the subject.  Make sure you spend time apart so that you meet new people.
  4. Take business cards.  Lots of business cards.  Give them away.  Ask other people for their cards.  Make a note on the back that will help you remember the person.
  5. Know your elevator speech:  Who you are, what you do and why you are here
  6. Take pre-stamped postcards or cards to use as Thank You cards for speakers or other people that you meet. Write them while the material is still fresh and send them right away.
  7. Never eat alone.  Invite someone you don’t know to eat with you.  Invite a speaker to lunch.
  8. Identify the new people you meet that you want to stay in touch with and reach out quickly via one of the social media platforms.
  9. Take the time to thank the speakers for the insights they have shared.
  10. Take something to give away: your book, a link to an ebook, something more memorable than your business card. Share it!

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  lynnewatts52@gmail.com

Let’s stop making excuses and start making a new future.

I’m looking so forward to being a part of the changes in your life!

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Stuck in your job?

jobindepWhat to do in the meantime.

Do you spend as much time complaining about your job as you do working on your job?

Are you envious of co-workers who have left but feel like you will never be able to leave?

Are there so many obstacles to leaving your job that you get overwhelmed and give up just thinking about it?

Do you want to leave your job today, but get no support from your family?

If you’re stuck and can’t leave your job right now, here are some tips for what to do in the meantime.

Quit complaining

My mother used to say, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”

The problem with complaining is that it not only takes energy, it creates negative energy.  You need to put all your creative energy toward finding a solution to the problem.  Make a deal with yourself not to complain about your job for the next week.  Then extend it.

Not only will you feel better, so will the people around you…

Recognize that you have choices

Sometimes it is easier to complain that we are stuck when we really do have choices, we just don’t want to make the sacrifices necessary to take action.  If you have ever said that you are waiting to leave or change jobs when you (get the house paid off, get the kids out of college, get out of debt), know that these things are only holding you back because you have decided to allow that to happen.

What if it’s possible to get a better paying job or start your own business on the side and pay off your obligations too? Rather than looking for an either-or solution, look for a solution that involves both choices.  We so often limit ourselves and our vision.

Make a plan

Rather than wait for disaster to fall, why not create an exit plan?  Create a timeframe.  It can be six months or six years to completion but start today.  Determine what you are going to do on a weekly/monthly basis to get unstuck.

Identify your strengths and skill-set

Know what you are good at and take credit for it.  Don’t think of yourself as “just a teacher” or “just an office worker”. Recognize your unique gifts and value them.

Stay current

Keep your resume up to date.  Identify key companies that you would like to work for.  Research them extensively. Network with other people who can inform you of new opportunities. Stay up to date with trends in your field. Volunteer and sign up for extra training. Keep certifications or licenses current.

There are a lot of reasons why leaving a job is challenging.  Even when we hate where we are working, it is at least familiar, even comfortable.  It is easier to follow the same routine day after day than it is to break out of it and take a risk.

Don’t let the illusion of security lull you into complacency.

Create a plan and come unglued… in a good way of course…

Need a coach to hold you accountable?

Ready to make a change in your life?

Want to create an exit plan from your job?

Learn more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/coachingforsuccess

Email me to set up a free coaching clarity call:  lynnewatts52@gmail.com

Let’s stop making excuses and start making a new future.

I’m looking so forward to being a part of the changes in your life!

Erin Shaw

Erin Shaw

Wow!  Lynne’s expertise in Personality Styles, mindset and priority management paired with Kathy Brunner’s expertise in business building and goal setting is a powerful combination.  The interactive and personalized format was engaging and gave me tools I can use and actions I can take right away.  ~Erin Shaw

 

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What successful people do in the morning

Create Your Own Miracle Morning

Do you get to the end your your day and wonder where the time went?

When someone asks you what you did all day… are you at a loss?

Do you keep thinking that tomorrow will be different?  You’ll finally get a grip on your time…

Tony Robbins calls it his hour of power, Jairek Robbins calls it his miracle morning and I call it my Daily Focus.  What is it?  It is taking the time early each morning (yes even on the weekend) to reflect, refocus, rethink and renew.  Research shows that it is what successful people do to insure a productive day.

Here are some key ways to get your day off to a successful start:

Get Up early:  Research shows that our most productive time is the first 2-4 hours right after getting up (yes even if you think you are a night owl).  I know this is true for me!  I get my best work done soon after I get up and I try to pack in my most demanding and high priority work at that time.

Have a plan:  I find it helps if I focus on the same key things during my daily focus time.  Here are some questions to reflect on:

  • How do I want to show up today? (feeling and being)
  • What did I accomplish yesterday?
  • What are my top priorities for today?

It’s simple but powerful.  I create a plan and a calendar for the week that lets me know not only the obligations I have such as coaching calls or meetings but the sacred times I’ve set aside for writing.

Create a routine:  Not only is it important to have a plan for the day, but also have a routine for your reflection time.

  • You could spend some time writing in your journal.
  • You could create your daily priorities.
  • Spend some time in prayer or meditation.
  • Read some inspirational material.
  • Write in your gratitude journal.

Focus:  No multi-tasking allowed!  This is not time to catch the news on the television while you practice some breathing to get centered and send a text message to a friend.

Set priorities:  This doesn’t refer to just your work but also to your relationships and your time to unwind.  What you plan for and prioritize you will do.  Think you don’t have enough time to do it all?  It’s not a time problem, it’s a priority problem.

Practice Gratitude:  Recognizing the things that you are grateful for is the precursor to joy and happiness.  Be sure to spend some time appreciating the many blessings you have.  If you start your day in an attitude of gratitude, you will set the tone for the day.

Stay active:  Plan some exercise and active time early in the day.  It will lift your mood, rev up your metabolism and keep your body healthy.

Be still:  Successful people know the importance of being still.  You can’t run an engine 24/7 without a breakdown. Set aside some time to pray, meditate and be still.  Even the stuffy corporate world is recognizing the benefits of the practice of meditation and mindfulness.

Be consistent:  Consistent action over time leads to success.  Having a morning focus time is not just a sometime thing but a daily thing.  Yes, even on the weekend.  Trust me, once you get used to it you will miss it when you don’t have it.

Celebrate:  Make sure it’s not all work and no play.  Celebrate big wins.  Celebrate little wins.  Read something thoughtful or funny or hilarious…Celebrate life!

Successful people live life differently.  They establish consistent routines, focus and set priorities.  Success is a 24/7 lifestyle choice but it isn’t a secret.  It’s an intentional way of life.

How do you start your day?  I’d love to hear what works (and doesn’t work) for you!

Ready to make a change in your life? Want to create an exit plan for your job? Join me for 60 Days to Independence, an online class that will get you on the road to a new career and a new life.

Find out more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60daysinfo

Grab your seat here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60days

 lizagainDream Achiever Coaching changed my style at work with amazing results! Through the DISC personality profile, I was able to identify my strengths and clarify my focus on my job. Lynne had several concrete time management and productivity recommendations that helped me get control of my time. My confidence and productivity have improved tremendously!  ~Liz Chadwick

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Need your own Job Independence Day?

Dreaming of being your own boss?

According to a recent article in Success magazine, more people in the 55-64 age group start businesses than those in the 20-30 age range. Surprised?

If it’s something that you’ve been thinking about lately, maybe it’s a sign because … you are so done working for someone else.

Are you dreaming of setting your own schedule and tapping into your creative side?

Do you imagine what it would be like to feel excited, passionate even about getting up and going to work each day?

I know… the thought of actually moving forward is at once terrifying and confusing.

What do you do first?

Will you be able to survive?

How do you know when to take the leap?

Here’s a few tips that helped me as I left my career of 20+ years to start my own business:

Step 1: Know Your “Why”
Know both the pros and cons of leaving your job.  Sometimes we become so focused on the negatives that we don’t realize the positives until it’s too late.  It doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t move forward.  Only that you will need to build in certain factors as you plan ahead.  For instance:

  • Do you thrive on the social interaction that your job provides?   How can you replace the need for interaction in your  day?
  • Are you a technology klutz who depends on the techies at your day job to keep you up and running?
  • Do you depend on the feedback of your administration and co-workers to keep you pumped up and energized?

Step 2: Nail Down Your Vision

What will be your new career?   Be specific.

  • What will you do?
  • What will you create or what service will you provide?
  • Who will your clients be?
  • What will your work environment be?
  • How much money will you make?
  • What would a typical day look like?

Step 3: Connect the Dots

Here’s where the rubber meets the road.  What will it take for you to get from here to there?

Create an action plan and a timeline.

Talk to other knowledgeable people who have done what you want to do.

Read books, take classes, listen to podcasts, read blogs, get a coach, find a mentor.

Finally (here’s the biggie)- Take action

Imperfect Action

One day, you’ll wake up, look around and be amazed at the business you created!

It is possible.  You can create your own Independence Day.

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I had lots of ideas, but no idea how to actually take the first step toward making my dream a reality. Lucky for me, the Dream Achiever Coaching program had everything that I needed to begin taking precious baby steps. The strategy sessions clearly identified each next step in an order that made perfect sense. And the mindset sessions gave me the confidence I needed to move forward!

~Ellen Quarles

 

Ready to take action?  Join me for 60 Days to Independence, an online class that will get you on the road to a new career and a new life.

Get the details here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60daysinfo

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Don’t wait…space is limited.

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Do you need an exit plan from your job?

Do you fantasize about leaving your job?

Are you counting the days until the next vacation or holiday?

Is Sunday evening the worst time of the week because you dread the long week ahead?

Is Take this Job and Shove It at the top of your playlist?

What if instead of thinking about leaving your job, you took action?

Not crazy, spur of the moment, OMG-what-was-I- thinking action, but a carefully thought out I-know-what-I’m-doing action?

What if instead of complaining and stressing about your job, you actually looked forward to each day and the work you were going to do?

What if you had an exit plan?

Think it’s possible?

In May 2014 I left my career of 20 years to begin a brand new chapter in my life. Today, I am an entrepreneur, but it didn’t happen overnight.  After spending a lifetime working for someone else, I now work for myself.  I have authored five children’s books and three motivational books for adults.  I speak at conferences and coach other women on how to make a move from employee to entrepreneur.

Has it been an adjustment?  Yes!

Has it been worth it?  Absolutely!

Planning Ahead

Here’s three tips to create an exit plan:

1.  Know why and what you want to leave.  I know you are  thinking…”Well duh, I hate everything about the job!” but you need to be more specific.  Otherwise you will simply move on to something else and wake up one day to realize you have re-created the same experience.  Here are some examples of why you might want to leave:

  1. I don’t want to follow someone else’s schedule
  2. I don’t want to work with people who lack enthusiasm and ambition-no more deadbeats
  3. I don’t want to just push paper around anymore

2. Clarity is Key–Equally important is what you are leaving it for.  While most of us dream of a life spent lying on the beach and sipping our favorite beverage, the reality of doing that day after day can be boring and ultimately depressing.

I know that when you feel the need to escape from the pressure of your day to day life this seems impossible, but trust me.

While you may need a break or a sabbatical, make sure that you are prepared for the lack of structure, social interaction and support that follows leaving a job.

As one friend told me, “I was excited at first to work on all the projects that I’d been putting off around the house. Eventually though I got them all done and thought, well what am I going to do with my time now?”

Ask yourself:

  • What is my skill set, my genius work?
  • What is the environment that I thrive in?
  • How much money do I need/want to make?
  • Does my new endeavor require training?  Going back to school?

3.  Create a Budget— this is critical!

  • What is your income now? Know where it goes by giving every dollar a home.
  • What will your income be in the future? Estimate if necessary.  Create a budget for where it will go then.
  • How much money do you need/want to make?

Transitioning from employee to  entrepreneur is scary and exciting at the same time.  You can create the best possible results with a well thought out and executed exit plan.

Need some help setting up your exit plan?

Ready to make a change in your life?

Join me for 60 Days to Independence, an online class that will get you on the road to a new career and a new life.

Find out more here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60daysinfo

Grab your seat here:  http://lynnewatts.com/60days

20140315: The Called Woman Conference in Marietta on Saturday March 15, 2014. Lynne Watts, Kathy Brunner, Kim Wiggins. Joann Miller and Dorsey McHugh, Joel and Pei Boggess, Colleen Miller, Nadine Mullins, Sheri Barnes, Erin Shaw.

The conference is more than worthwhile!  It provides insightful information and suggestions to achieve your goal, dream and business.  It allows for networking opportunities and is empowering and encouraging.  I’ve attended 3 years in a row and it gets better and better.  I don’t think I could have started my business without the guidance of Kathy Brunner and Lynne Watts!~ Amy Molley, sensiblesensoryspaces.com

 

 

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Networking Tips for Introverts

Mention attending networking events to many entrepreneurs and you get rapid heartbeats along with interesting excuses. When I mentioned to a friend that I never saw her at any of the networking events put on by the local business association that we both belong to, she responded, “Yeah, I never go because I don’t know anyone…”  Call me crazy but isn’t that the point?

I can’t say that I blame her though.  It is a rare breed that naturally likes walking into a room full of strangers and starting a conversation.  Only the most extraverted of individuals will find this appealing.  There are ways though that you can calm your nerves and also use this time effectively.

Here’s how:

  1. Instead of thinking about networking events as a place to make contacts and get clients for your business, begin thinking of it as a place to serve others and learn something new.  This takes the pressure off of you to sell your business.  People love to talk about what they do so instead show a genuine interest in their business. And don’t just focus on the business.  Be interested in them as a person.  I always enjoy finding out how someone got started in the business that they are in.  What is their history?  What have been their biggest struggles and successes?  Look for ways that you can serve someone.  Can you connect them with another person or business?  Can you refer them to a book or resource?  Be curious.  Be involved.  Be genuine.morgan and babara
  2.  You probably won’t walk in to a networking event and leave with one or more clients.  Consider it a time to become familiar to other people.  Don’t just show up once and never come back.  Become a familiar face.  Follow-up with the people you meet by connecting on Linkedin or by sending a personal message.  Be service not selling oriented.  And as in any relationship, be consistent in offering support.networking

  3. Finally, here is a great way to get connected:  Ask the people organizing the event, “How can I help?” Greet people at the door, help with signing people in or join a committee.  Really get to know business owners as people rather than as another sale.  Before you know it, you’ll look forward to networking events rather than dreading them!sign people in

How do you view networking? How do you make it work for you and your personality style? Let me know in the comments!

Want to learn more about your personality style and networking?  Listen to the teleseminar that I did on:

Networking for Introverts

In this teleseminar you will learn:

The four basic personality styles and the characteristics of each

Where each personality style gets their energy

Strategies for working in your strengths no matter what your personality style is

Want to get more information about your personality style and how you can celebrate your strengths?    Take the online personality assessment and get a 45 minute interpretation of your results:

http://lynnewatts.com/DISCprofile

Erin Shaw

Erin Shaw

Wow!  Lynne’s expertise in Personality Styles, mindset and priority management paired with Kathy Brunner’s expertise in business building and goal setting is a powerful combination.  The interactive and personalized format was engaging and gave me tools I can use and actions I can take right away.  ~Erin Shaw

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7 Things Entrepreneurs Will Understand

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Are you an entrepreneur? Traveling in the business world as a solo-preneur can be scary, rewarding and exciting at the same time.  Ever since leaving my twenty year career as a school counselor and stepping boldly (and timidly at the same time) into the world of  business, I have learned and grown more as a person than probably at any other point in my life.
There is nothing like moving into new territory to bring out all the insecurities and doubts that you ever had. That’s why I am so glad that a year ago, I signed on with my own business coach, Christine Kane and her empowering UpLevel Academy to provide some guidance along the way.  Follow the pink arrow to find me at the latest Uplevel retreat in the photo above.
In my first year as a life coach and entrepreneur, I have had the privilege of coaching some amazing women in their journey.  In many ways, I have grown as much as they have!  As I look back on the past year, here are seven things I’ve learned:

1. You Will Never Be The Same Person

Stepping into my own business has made me a better person.  No longer am I following the dictates of someone else’s program or adjusting to someone else’s management style.  I structure my own days and plan my own calendar.  I am my own person;  I determine the plan of action and take responsibility for the results.   I am more self-aware and authentic. I have more confidence and trust in my own abilities.

2. You Are In Control Of Your Emotions

Entrepreneurs definitely experience various levels of stress on a regular basis, from worry about finances to implementing new strategies.  I’ve felt awkward and ill at ease at networking events and laid awake at night wondering where the next client will come from. You quickly teach yourself  how to remain calm and in control even when you are dealing with uncertainty and doubt.

3. You Are the Leader of Your Own Life

Entrepreneurs can’t rely on their co-workers or boss to plan their day or back them up when things aren’t working. Instead they teach themselves to become master leaders who are at cause in their own lives.  They take responsibility for the good, the bad, the ugly and consider it all research and development for improving their business.

4. You Live In The Present

Entrepreneurs know how to live in the moment. You are done waiting for perfection, rescue or permission.  You are ready to seize the opportunity and the day. It doesn’t matter that there are obstacles ahead.  You have learned to walk around them.

5. You Understand The Importance Of Leaving Your Comfort Zone

Entrepreneurs learn that you can be fearful and brave at the same time.

You learn to push yourself even when you are afraid, because  you know the best experiences happen there.

6. Your Perspective Is Always Changing

Being an entrepreneur means you get the chance to connect with other people and their businesses.You are no longer isolated from the world in your own sphere of knowledge.  Every time I really listen to others, I see the world through their eyes, and my perspective changes slightly.

As well as trusting yourself, you value others highly. Being an entrepreneur means you have to rely on strangers all the time. You accept that you are not always in control, and you can rely on others to help and assist you.

7. You Know Your Strengths

I have coached other women, spoken at conferences, attended dozens of networking events and introduced my business to others, always following a plan that I made myself. I have learned how to roll with the punches, and I am aware of how strong and capable I can be in the best of times and the worst of times.

Are you an entrepreneur?  What have you learned about yourself from the experience?

Need a coach to walk along side you as you step into the challenging and exciting world of entrepreneurship?  Check out my coaching packages:  Dream Achiever Coaching and sign up for a a free 30 minute coaching clarity call.  I’d love to help you take the next step.

diane3I had the privilege of being one of Lynne’s coaching clients. I’ve never before sought out “life coaching,” as I’ve never been a person to really consider what my goals are, or even believe that I could dare to dream of doing something different with my life.

Here’s what Lynne did for me: she showed me how to express what I would like to happen, she showed me tools for beginning to make that happen, and she encouraged me in the pursuit of my goals. I haven’t been the best student–I didn’t make anything happen fast and I didn’t even do everything Lynne suggested. But along the way–and I AM pursuing my dream–I have used Lynne’s expert advice and encouragement to propel me forward.

I would highly recommend Lynne as a Life Coach for two reasons, especially if you are highly motivated. The first is because Lynne has actually lived what she is teaching you!! She is a product of her own approach to living your dream–and that’s what she so wants to help you do. The second is that she is so affirming and encouraging, she believes in you–so why not believe in yourself??

~Diane Calhoun

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